Wednesday, July 15, 2009

Clothes Do Not MAKE the Man (or Woman)

Further protest to my penultimate post:

Celebrities are never good examples of modesty. The virtue of modesty is not displayed merely when it coincides with a certain fashion, or individual taste. Virtue, itself, transcends the disordered fallen inclinations to only self and is evident by consistency of its exercise, as virtue is a habit. Habits have consistency, and tastes change.

There is probably not a single pop celebrity that is an example of this virtue of modesty. Since the virtue is what should be celebrated and not merely the coincidental choice of something that is somewhat modest garb, I made a mistake by emphasizing the clothing style of a pop artist in comparison to the "norm" of pop artists. I protest: Clothes do NOT make the man (or woman). We should be celebrating the elevation of the human condition, not the degradation by suggesting the human spirit is to be celebrated when it glorifies its self inclinations and whims. The practice of virtue is at the root of what elevates the human condition, both on the level of the individual and of the society.

While I may point to a few specific clothing styles or items, the point then would be to encourage and inspire those who wish to grow in the virtue of modesty. Fashion, itself, is not a virtue, although it is frequently hailed throughout the ages as if it is something to be vyed and longed for even to the obscurity of virtue. Fashion, when sought for its own sake, quickly denigrades to promoting the vice of lust, predominately fallen into by men, and vanity, predominately fallen into by women. Even when one of these vices are subtly employed through ones presentation the inevitable result is, at best, a miscommunication, at worse it presents a lie. This lie is either on the level of what is received, or by the cheapening of the human dignity by the presenter. As a final result, vice is considered on par with virtue: inciting lust or advertising vanity are seen often as a display of one's personal power, when actually, such a lie comes from the Father of Lies, where disorder all began.

I have, therefore, decided to refine my approach with this blog, and make it more of a resource to women (and later on, perhaps also men) who are wanting to know where to find affordable, modest clothing. Also, I will continue to include editorial comments on current matters relating to the virtue of modesty.
Also, modesty can be used to mean a reasonable, or even small quantity, such as "she owns a modest amount of clothing". Please note, that by no means am I meaning to imply that people should be so interested in modest clothing that they should own a different outfit for each day of the month, or even of the week. My intent is not to promote clothing gluttony. Actually, even my caption for the blog title is meant to be taken tongue in cheek, as with the purpose of the blog being "(to change the world) one outfit at a time." What has been my own experience, however, is that most of the clothing being sold nowadays is of cheap fabric and quality in general, and therefore does not last more than a year or two at best (I guess that depends, too, on how often a piece is worn).
That brings us also to the issue of the exploitation of laborers in the predominate countries where most clothing fabrics now originate. Countries like China especially fall into this category, as they do not pay their workers enough to even support themselves let alone a family. (Please read: Quadragesimo Anno and Rerum Novarum.) I will try to also consider this in my posts, since the promotion of one virtue cannot be valid if it acts as an end to itself, as the true execution of virtue promotes all the other virtues. Here, the social concsious cannot be ignored in the areas of justice and charity. Therefore, I will include specific alternatives and other suggestions which will also take this concern into account as well.
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Monday, July 13, 2009

Apologies

I want to make a disclaimer for my last post.

It's probably not a good idea to put any celebrity person on a pedestal nowadays as being modest, even for a moment. Celebrities tend to be fickle. I'm not sure if it's narcissism that brings them to their fame, or if it's the fame that gets to their head in the end. Either way, morality ends up always as a relative concept to them.

There is only one woman I know that has been steadfastly modest but can also be used as a role model. I've never seen her myself, but I know she's a role model for modesty because of what I do know about her. She's the woman that gave her "fiat" about 2000 years ago to God. And when you think about it, 2000 years ago wasn't really that long ago, in the big scheme of things. We should figure ourselves lucky to know such a figure in history.

See what I did? I let the cat out of the bag. I wasn't planning on making this blog about me on a personal level, or about religion, but something happened. I was supposed to give a talk to a bunch of different schools, where parents would be there as well as the young students. I was asked to only talk about modesty and not bring up religion. But see, that's the problem. No one thinks modesty is something that is determined by objective standards unless they have a sense within them that they have accountability to God, and to their neighbor for the sake of their accountability to God. People don't think that they are their brother's keeper anymore, unless you're talking about socialism* (*for some reason socialism is cool in this country all of the sudden).

Our society has gone too far in licensiousness, that it won't return to civility and the values that protect true freedom. Sex sells, violence sells, and shock-value sells. All one has to do is look at the clothes that are consider high fashion today, especially the women's clothes, and they aren't beautiful at all. They distort and degrade, and shock. They aim to seduce and do so by novelty, with the underlining premise that what is really beautiful is inevitably dull. It's all a lie, but no one stops to think about it, they just keep going on from one tv show to the next, from one shocking celebrity tabloid scandal to the next. Ugly is "in" so much that beauty is obscured and forgotten.

In the final analysis, fashion trends are not the way to go. We who are interested in modesty must create our own image, and our own way of expression. There's nothing that the major designers or celebrities can really offer us. They've drawn the line, and we will remain true to ourselves and move on. What's really boring is the same old cheapening of the feminine person by the trends, manifesting itself in a paganistic culture. It is nothing new and it has nothing to offer, and it is boring. The new, modest woman sees through it all and stands apart from this in her dignified dress. She represents her own future, apart from the predictable consequences of immorality, licensiousness and disorder. She demonstrates true strenght, and in this day and age, true courage and beauty.
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Thursday, July 9, 2009

Finally: Pop Star with Some Class

Few pop artists are into modesty, but I couldn't help but notice that there's at least one that stands out, by not trying to. Afterall, she's a musician and if a musician is any good, it's really about the music, right?
I don't know a whole lot about this artist, but I looked her up when I heard one of her songs in the store and couldn't help but enjoy it. She reminds me of a female Elvis Costello, but smarter, with more accessible melodies, themes and lyrics. Anyway, I'm not really into pop, but she's still my favorite pop artist, especially after listening to this song and watching this video, "Laughing With". The skirt would have been prettier and modest with a mid-calf hem and a bit more coverage on the top, but compared to the norm in pop culture, this is a radical leap in the right direction:


I hope and pray that more artists come out dressing more dignfied, taking some *(albeit small cues) from Miss Spektor.

It's funny, but it seems that all that hype with the shocking outfits seems a little gimmicky and pretentious, and in that way alienates in the very people their acts should be building up, not taking down and exploiting to sexual objects.

And you're right, no one's laughing...

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Wednesday, July 8, 2009

The Church: "NO" to Degradation, "YES!" to Purity

St. Maria Goretti is keeping busy in Heaven.

It was no accident that I began this blog on this dear saint's feast. However, I had not been aware of the fact that it was her feast until some time later that day, after I had already published my first post.

On the vigil of her feast, the secretary general of the Italian Bishops’ Conference in Rome, Italy, Bishop Mariano Crociata (see above pic), said that the Church does not have any kind of contempt for the human body and sexuality, but that she does say “no to moral degradation and to contempt for modesty, sobriety and self-control.” One quote that really hits home was, "we act and speak of things that ought to embarrass us, and we end up embarrassed of what is true, noble, just, pure, kind and honorable, of what is virtuous and merits praise.

This article is simply a must read.
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Tuesday, July 7, 2009

And Yet, More Reasons Why Little Girls Should Not Wear Makeup

Bella, a 3-year old girl, steals away into her big sister's room to play with her makeup. There she finds the video camera set up with a laptop. Bella tries to use her image on the screen as a 'mirror'. Unbenownst to Bella, her mom and older sister are spying on her behind the door to see what she's up to. (Make sure you click on the little 'x" on the bottom right banner of the video when the ads come up.)


Bella's Makeup Video

On a serious note, it's a bit sad that even little, tiny girls are thinking that makeup will make them more beautiful than the already are.

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Superstar Unconstructed Skirt

Sometimes a piece of clothing is so cool, it needs to be billed as a supporting character.

This is an a-line, decontructed, "cargo"* (*but sans pockets) skirt off of Monarch of the Glen (a BBC show that ended a few years ago). The skirt is casual-dressy --- appropriate for an outdoor, social, not-too-formal social event. It's main features are that it is from that "unconstructed" phase, that never got it's just due. Designers did it too much for shock value than for tasteful fun, and could have done more to make accessibly modest designs for the younger (or young at heart) crowd. I'm not letting go of the destructured look as it still has its place when the cut is right, it has the right top and is applied for a semi-formal, outdoor event.

The details are marvelous. There is a zipper in the front, which is appropriate for a casual skirt. There is a sweeping of pieces of fabric from one hip towards the front, which contribute to the flowing movement, giving it an assymetical look which doesn't detract from the generously, flowing a-line. The fabric, which seems to be a basic twill, is smart: heavy enough to make it a parody of a work skirt, and soft enough to keep a feminine look. And, of course, the finish on the hem is purposely unfinished. The wardrobe designers did an excellent job in matching this with the right footware and understated jacket, with dark bands to match the boots.


Smart and funky: it's a rare thing!

My friend and I are dying to co-op one or two other patterns to try to get recreate this look. If anyone has any pattern suggestions, please feel free to comment!

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Bonjour! Wilkommen! Hola! Bemvinda! Konnichiha!

Welcome to my MODESTY RULES fashion blog. We're all about modesty here, and having fun with it and staying true to ourselves. The principle here is that no woman should buy into the idea that "being fashionable" means selling out one's sexual dignity. We're women because WE ARE, not because we have to convince anyone else of the fact. We are CONFIDENT women who aren't ashamed about being feminine (occurs naturally with being female), and are not about to permit the rag ads (you know, the one's in those overtly degrading magazines that are supposed to be for us) tell us we need to advertise our wares to be attractive.

Modest clothing can be cool. Right at this very moment, there is a trend towards more dignified women's wear, and my goal is to help further inspire women of all ages to be creative in their clothing, while remaining dignified in true modesty.

There are even a few Rules that are recommended. Some of the recommended standards can be found on Colleen Hammond's blog. The main thing is to come here, relax, read and be inspired.
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